Moments in Time

Hello again!!

So today I'm talking about memories. They're weird things, memories.
Weird? You're saying.
Yes. Weird. It's weird which things you remember; the good and the bad times. And how much of one thing you can remember - the full event or just a snapshot? Is there a balance between good and bad? I've heard it said before that you remember more bad things than good. I disagree. I think, for me, it's pretty even.

For example, let's take my last break-up. A bad memory, right? Well the pain of losing someone you love quite frankly hurts. For me, it's a strong, terrible pain all over my chest. It's like I've broken my ribs and breathing becomes hard and I feel like I can actually feel my heart breaking. So, in majority, a bad memory.
BUT...
It was a nice sunny day. And he hugged me. And he kissed me one last time. And he walked me home. And basically he was very good about the whole thing. We stayed friends.
So I argue it's more of a bitter-sweet memory. So it's a moment that was, in the end, worth it. A memory worth being in pain over for several months because I'm so grateful now.

That memory, that moment in time, I remember every single detail about. Our clothes, the weather, where we walked, what he said, what I said, the pain; everything. But then there's other memories I only remember tiny details about...
e.g. Day Out to Skegness with some Friends
I remember it was sunny. We ate hot, fresh donuts. We shook our ferris wheel carriage to scare one of my friends (she's afraid of heights). But that's it. I don't remember anything else.

Which is weird. Why can I remember less of the definitely happier memory?
It's also weird how one little thing in a day can make you remember something, maybe even something you'd completely forgotten about.

For example, putting on one of my dresses reminds me of the first time I wore it; my 18th birthday night when I first experienced a night out. This memory, which happily I remember every detail of (and it was definitely a great memory), is always bought on by that dress.

So, memories are extremely curious, weird and powerful things. And be good or bad, I think you should cherish every single one of them because there's so much we don't remember of good or bad times.

Until the next time,
                             Jess x